Comments on: Bonding with an Adopted Child

By: Schery

Schery — Mon, 29 Sep 2008 21:54:34 +0000

Thanks so much for sharing your story. My husband and I have been considering adoption for over a year now…I’m the one who keeps holding back, because I’ve been worried about the bonding issue as well… I’ve always wondered if I’d be able to love an adopted baby as much as I would a birth child….and I’m terrified that I’ll never really bond with the baby. Plus there’s always the fear that the baby will hate me. So it’s nice hear an HONEST first-hand experience, that it wasn’t all roses at first, but it was definitely well worth it.

By: Angie

Angie — Sat, 26 Jul 2008 02:19:23 +0000

Thank you for your honesty! We adopted our son last month and he was very angry when we brought him home. He is starting to show happiness after a month. He does have eye contact, but he had a hard time trusting us. Your post is encouraging as this stage will not last forever:) Thank you so much for posting! Many blessings to you and your family!!

By: Sara

Sara — Mon, 12 May 2008 13:40:34 +0000

Hi! I stumbled across your site while searching for information on Japanese adoption. My husband and I are moving to Iwakuni, Japan in August and we hope to adopt a child while we are living there. There is so little information on adoption from Japan, I was wondering if you would be willing to chat with me about your experience. We have one son already who we adopted from foster care in the US and we are hoping to make him a big brother soon. Thank you so much. And congratulations – your daughter is beautiful!

By: stretch NV

stretch NV — Tue, 01 May 2007 07:11:16 +0000

Thank you for sharing your story. I belive I got in touch with the same lady in CA that you mentioned in the past. Would you tell us how much it cost for you to adopt this baby? I did not realize that it would be more expensive than chinese adoption…

By: Anu

Anu — Tue, 24 Apr 2007 23:08:11 +0000

Wow! what a story. You are an awesome person and a great dad. Really impressed by your big heart and patience. Hope all the adopted kids get dad like you. I have heard a lot of scary stories that the innocent children being molested after they are brought to the western world.. I guess some people are just too selfish.

By: Veronika

Veronika — Sun, 01 Apr 2007 20:30:04 +0000

She is just gorgeous, thanks for sharing. It is very nice to see someone admitting that adoption is not a breeze. Everytime I see someone saying that their adopted child just fell into their routine and it was so easy etc, I wonder if they’re really being truthful or just trying to hide the fact that it was hard. At least prospective adoptive parents can get an idea of what to expect and not be shocked when the baby doesn’t immediately love them or the other way around.

By: Sharon

Sharon — Thu, 29 Mar 2007 16:14:31 +0000

Thank you for sharing your story. Your family has gone through a lot. I’m glad your family is doing well, especially after the loss of your first baby. My husband and I are looking into International Adoption. I thought I would share a website for Reaching Out. Its http://adoptachild.us/index.htm. They have a pilot program for Japan and its mostly older children. I don’t know much about it. But I thought some of you readers who are interested in Japanese adoption might find it useful.